I firmly believe that children should be taught obedience from a young age; it is a highly important aspect of life. My parents raised me to be obedient and respectful, not only to them, but also to any others who are above me. Because of my mother’s gentle methods of ingraining this concept in my mind, I have never desired to rebel, nor have ever felt as if her “rules” were restraining. I strongly believe there are both correct and improper methods for teaching life-long lessons. Looking back, I do not remember any stern rebukes from my mom; rather, my mother, through her calm disposition and pleasant attitude, disciplined me with a loving approach. It is not necessarily the words that she spoke which softened my stubborn mind; more so, the manner in which she presented the words.
Reading about discipline has opened my eyes more fully to the principles supporting my mother’s techniques in raising me. Growing up, there were few “thou shalt not” rules. Instead, there were guidelines to follow and a standard to live up to. My parents entrusted me with responsibilities and would take disciplinary action as necessary. Out of love, not fear, I joyfully abided. However, in contrast, my best friend was not as blessed to have a properly disciplined upbringing. Her parents would demand her to follow a long list of unspoken rules, and she was constantly watched like a hawk. This unfortunately cultivated a rebellious heart within my friend and caused an unhealthy tension between her and her parents. Her parents tried instituting more restraints, which ultimately resulted in her defiantly leaving the home. I have seen two variations of discipline and their accompanying outcomes.
When children see the principles behind the rules, they are more likely to see the value and protection provided by the boundaries. From personal experience, I know that when children are trusted they are more likely to return the favor of respect. This does not mean that parents should abandon the care of their children. Parents should be actively involved in a positive manner, outside of reprimands and punishments; this method fosters healthy relationships.
Submission to authority is extremely valuable, but more importantly is submission tothe Authority. A parent’s influence plays a strong role a child’s life; this is the key to their prosperity – both in this world and the world to come. Just as God is not a dictator, parents should not order children around, but should give them a choice to obey or to disregard principle. The choice of obedience should be softly emphasized.
Spiritually, children need to be mentored and practically taught how to daily live in Christ. “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6. God is a god of love and seeks our best interest. Biblical principles are in place for our benefit. “Whatever Christ asks us to renounce, He offers in its stead something better.” (Education p.296) I am greatly encouraged to become a more obedient daughter of the King, having a better appreciation for principles and heavenly guidance.
